When asking a child a question about how his school day went, an adult usually expects to get a clear detailed answer. Most often, however, you will hear something like "Normal" or "Good." To avoid such monosyllabic answers, you should help the child by asking only those questions that he is unlikely to be able to answer in one word.
If you want to know about the general emotional state of the child during the day, you can ask questions that clarify both the acquired positive and negative experiences. These can be questions like, "What was the best school today?" and "What was the worst today?" By answering these questions, your child can tell you not only about their grades, but also about their relationships with teachers and classmates.
You can also learn about the child's relationship with classmates by asking leading questions about who would be more pleasant for him to sit at a desk, do laboratory work, participate in social activities, etc., and with whom not and why.
However, children are not always ready to speak explicitly about problems in relationships, so you can come up with a kind of game by asking such questions: “Imagine if tomorrow people from another planet come to your class and decide to take one of you with them forever. Who would you like them to take?"
If your child does not have obvious ill-wishers in the classroom, but does not have friends either, and he is simply embarrassed to start communication, you can help him in the following way. Ask the child, for example, who he would like to play with during recess, one of those guys with whom he has never played.
You can offer to present to your child a situation in which you invite his school teacher to visit you. What interesting things could your teacher tell you? Would it be nice for a child to see him at your home? These and similar questions will help to understand how the child relates to a particular teacher, whether he is hiding, for example, bad grades and whether he feels a possible bias towards himself.
Parents of many primary school students are often seriously concerned that their child does not "pick up" obscene language at school. It is possible to find out about this by asking the child the following leading questions: "Did someone say strange unfamiliar words to you today?", "What is the most incomprehensible word you heard today for the whole day?"
You can also ask questions to help you understand your child's hobbies and interests as much as possible. These can be questions about the most interesting and curious experiences at school, such as: "What new did you learn today during the whole day?" In addition, you can concretize the question with a subject that interests you, for example, history or physics.
And about unloved objects can be told by questions about what was the most boring, less memorable, not interesting, even monotonous for a child today.
In addition to subjects and relationships in the classroom, parents are often interested in the issues of rational and proper nutrition. It is unlikely that a child is ready to list you the daily menu in a local canteen, it is easier to find out which dish he liked today and which did not; what was tastier and more satisfying, and what, perhaps, he did not eat at all.
Often, children may be unhappy with certain requirements or even the teacher's remarks about them. Then you can offer to play some kind of game, giving the child the opportunity to imagine himself in the teacher's place. Ask him leading questions: "What kind of teacher would you be?", "What would you do in this situation as a teacher and why?"
In addition, asking questions can help you understand if your child has specific ideals in the classroom.Ask him if he was offered to change places with someone, who would it be and why? What attracts your child to whom he would like to swap with? Answering these questions will help you learn more about your child's current values.
It is important that children at school have a varied experience and not be burdened with just one study. Ask your child if there was anything during the day that, perhaps, cheered him up, lifted his spirits and was most memorable.
Asking clarifying questions about additional circles and other extracurricular activities, you can understand how active your child is. So, if he enthusiastically tells that he got a role in the New Year's performance, which he always dreamed of, while he performs easily and with pleasure - great. If this is not the case, it is worth asking the child what it is in social activities that he dislikes most of all and why he is not ready to take part in it.
Choosing additional sections and circles for your child, it will not be superfluous to ask what activity attracts him the most. For example, you can ask the question: "What else would you be interested in doing besides school?", "What would you like to learn, besides the subjects that you have?"
Answering the question about your favorite place in school will help you find out how comfortable your child is in general, what activities and subjects attract him the most, and what ultimately inspires him.