It is a pleasure to receive guests, but only if you are visited by those whom you are waiting for, whom you have not seen for a long time, whom you have invited. There are guests who, like Winnie the Pooh, appear suddenly, and you have to put on a smile, hastily sweep the apartment and prepare a treat.
According to the rules of etiquette, coming to visit without an invitation and prior notification is considered a rather ill-mannered act. After all, the landlord may be busy, working from home, cleaning, having a high fever, or being in a bad mood. Some people, obsessed with the thirst for communication and confident in their own irresistibility, sincerely believe that their appearance at a party is a reason to drop everything and start having fun. Convincing such visitors that they do not always choose the right time is difficult, but realistic.
An unwanted guest can be persuaded to leave right from the doorway. To do this, come up with some simple, but tedious business outside the apartment. In this case, a trip to the store is not suitable, since the visitor will decide that you are trying for his sake and will volunteer to help. But enrolling in a queue at a clinic or visiting a passport office are good options. Your visitor will not want to turn his sparkling visit into a visit to a hospital or housing department. Naturally, for believability, you have to get dressed and go in the right direction. On the other hand, it will give you the opportunity to complete some boring tasks that you have been putting off for a long time. For example, in fact, make an appointment with a doctor or submit documents.
Most people take the hints, but some have to hint more directly. If you are not just not happy with a guest, but are really busy or do not feel well, you can say so. And this should be done not in the form of opposition: “I have a headache and a high fever, but you are passing by, make yourself at home,” but as harshly and unambiguously as possible: “I feel bad, come back another time”. Thus, you may darken the visitor's radiant mood, but at the same time teach him to warn about his intention to visit in advance.
If the unwanted guest has already entered your apartment, settled down on the couch and requires small talk, try to inform that in the near future someone who your visitor cannot stand for one reason or another will join you. Try to demonstrate how excited you are about the future visit of the second guest, how long you have been waiting for it, and how, finally, everything coincided. There is a high probability that your intrusive visitor will simply run away.
Sometimes guests will sneak into your home pretending not to take a hint. You can play the same game and push the unwanted visitor out the door using his own methods. Try not to behave like the poor Rabbit from the cartoon about Winnie the Pooh ("The rabbit was very smart and very well mannered"), but use the methods of a rude teddy bear. If a guest hints that he is hungry because he did not have time to dine, do not rush to offer him the first, second and compote. Say that it is in vain that he treats his stomach so much, that you need to take care of yourself, that you, for example, just ate an hour ago, and now you do not want anything until evening, or even until morning.